Heres the torrents for the patches.
They go in C:\Users\name\Documents\My Games\FINAL FANTASY XIV\downloads\ffxiv
then the number up there then patch. Once the game is installed from the disc put the .patch file in the patch folder in that directory and it'll install them from there.
Just downloaded mine and confirm that it worked fine - my patches are sitting my download folder right now just waiting for my FFXIV to be installed so I can "copy pasta" them into the file.